Takeaways: Confidence and Power by Leslie Giblin

How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People by Leslie T. Giblin

   The book explains the fundamentals of human relationships, key elements in dealing with people,  and techniques that can be applied to improve the relationship. It highlights the sinserity, confidence, and humbleness in communication with people. I highly recommend this book, especially those who want to improve human relationship skills and learn useful principles in dealing with people.
   My lessons from this book are:

1. A human being has an emotional hunger to be noticed and appreciated by others and a feeling of being important. A sincere acceptance, approval, and appreciation help to fulfill those urges of the people, grant them a sense of being important and make them friendly.
2. Have desirable characteristics that you want to see in people. Show mercy to get mercy from people.
3. People assess you based on your assessments of yourself. Judging the people opens the door of your judgment by others.
4. Improve speaking ability. Our expression is a key to effective communication with people. Speaking ability and vocabulary you use may reveal your intelligence level to your audience.
5. Do not try to be perfect in your first approach to the people that you do not know. Know that good communication usually starts with simple, odd words. Learn to be comfortable to talk with strangers.
6. Listen to people. Listening shows your attention and appreciation for the speaker. By just listening without a word, you may profoundly impress the speaker. Listen to your pair carefully, encourage him to speak, do not interrupt, and talk when you are asked to speak.
7. Do not directly praise the person, appreciate the action and behavior of him. This kind of praise encourages the one to be better at what he is doing.
8. Do not criticize the people for the sake of your ego. If you need to criticize someone do it privately and friendly manner with a sense of humor. Provide a solution to a problem. Let him know that you trust him and offer your help for improvement.

Thank you for reading!