Takeaways: Give and Take by Adam Grant

Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success
by Adam M. Grant

   This book helps to understand certain characteristics of people in their relationship with others, especially in business and associations. I highly recommend to read this book, and you may find it here.
   Many valuable lessons are given in it, and here, I will mention some of the lessons that I learned from this book.

1. Our success depends on our attitude in dealing with others. People may behave as takers, givers, or matchers in their mutual relationships.
2. There are places that we always become givers like family, marriage, or neighborhood. But, in work or associations with others, we choose to be either a giver, taker, or matcher. 
3. Takers are mostly self-centered, try to get more than they give,  prefer to use the words like I, me, my, mine, eager to promote themselves, think that seeking advice or feedback from others is an insult for their reputation, and raise their voices to get the dominance. They become fakers when they deal with influential people to impress them, think the world is like a dog eat a dog place, and suck the energy in a team like a black hole.
4. Givers are the people try to give more. They are comfortable with sharing their time, energy, advice, and knowledge with others, ready to help people whatever they can, use the words like we, our, us. They listen and promote people, give an opportunity to others, they are like a sun to light their surroundings. 
5. Matchers keep the balance in their reciprocity, they give and take, they are the people in the middle. If they give, they expect to take, and if they take, they think they have to give.
6. The top successful people are mostly givers, but there are few givers in bottom line too. 
7. Powerless communication such as showing weakness and vulnerability in a tense situation might be a useful method to influence people. By genuinely asking questions or seeking advice from people, we may receive powerful support from them.   
8. Giving or spending to others gives more joy and happiness than spending on ourselves. Spending is not limited to money, it can be time, knowledge, advice and others. Thus, givers win by giving to others.

We have seen Adam Grant's another book, Originals in my previous post. You can find it here.

Thank you for reading!